Title:
Be Confident Even In The Face Of Confidence Killers
Word Count:
543
Summary:
You can be confident! All you have to do is rid yourself of confidence killers. Confidence killers are self-defeating thought patterns.
Keywords:
confidence building, self confidence, lack of, gaining, how to be, Peter Murphy
Article Body:
You can be confident! All you have to do is rid yourself of confidence killers. Confidence killers are self-defeating thought patterns. Many of us walk through life with these harmful assumptions.
See if you�ve got any of these evildoers in your thoughts:
1. The All or Nothing Sniper:
This way of thinking is the reason you can�t seem to enjoy even the small wins you�ve been getting in life. I�ll bet you were the kid in school who went home crying when you got one wrong on a test!
You think you are a complete failure when your performance (whatever it is) is not perfect. You�d be confident if you didn�t spend so much energy being so hard on yourself!
2. The Dark Cloud of Destruction:
Look out! There is a disaster hiding behind every corner. Expect it. The Dark Cloud of Destruction makes you think silly things like: �I failed my chemistry test; there is no point in even thinking about college, now.�
3. Warlord of Negative Magnification:
If you listen to this confidence killer you�ll never be confident. He�s got a warped idea that if it�s good- it doesn�t really count. He�ll take any little negative anthill and magnify it like it�s a mountain.
If you won 8 singing contests but had a cold for the 9th and came in second, he�ll harp on that ninth and you�ll never look at the 8 trophies as the great achievements they really are.
4. The �If I feel it, it must be so� Monster:
This is like a computer worm that shuts down all the clear thinking parts of your brain! A person with this can never be confident until they learn that how they are feeling doesn�t necessarily match up with the truth. We all have days when we don�t look our best or perform at our best.
The �I feel stupid so I must be stupid� syndrome allows us to let our emotions run our lives. Don�t blindly accept emotions as truth. Be confident enough to think that tomorrow you probably will be feeling different.
5. The Sinister Should:
Perfectionists are good at should statements. Should statements are more about what your think other people expect from you than what you really want.
Should statements can be something like: Everybody should have an education plan. The person then thinks � Oh, no! I don�t have an education plan! There must be something really wrong with me.�
6. Libellous Labeller:
Let�s throw this one in jail and throw away the key. You know the thought. It�s the one that we use to blame things on something. �I am a loser. It must all be my fault.� If you are going to think labels, label yourself a confident person.
7. Compliment Constrictor:
This creepy crawler just can�t seem to let you accept a compliment. For once, if someone tells you that you look good in that dress, don�t let the slimy one takeover and say: �Really? I think it makes me look fat!
The good news is that recognizing any of these villains is half of the battle. So put on your white hat- train yourself to cancel these confidence-killing thoughts.
